19 January, 2012

A chat I had regarding a perspective of mine on faith and my deconversion.


skyrlundy: One last moment on the religious thing. The thing that gets me thinking as I fall asleep.
You, and I individually know more than every person that penned the bible knew. All of them.
Collectively.
Added up together.
Stand them all together and we know more than any of them.
Actually

lo: welllllll it depends on the theme of jeopardy that night
to be honst

skyrlundy: HA.

lo: honest

skyrlundy: Wait.
Wait.
Verifiable objective knowledge.
They lived in a time where sickness was caused by demons.
The earth was flat.
We were at the center of the solar system.

lo: if they are asking about levitical law and geography of the early holy roman empire and the socio-cultural political climate of babylon- WE ARE FUCKED MY FRIEND

skyrlundy: Objection, relevance?
They may have social and cultural understanding.
But.

lo: we have smartphones
:>

skyrlundy: For the important things that shape our understanding of the world.
They know nothing.
This is especially relevant in how it affects their morality and understanding of a greater picture.
When someone comes to me and says "have you heard the good word"
The first thing that comes to mind is "You're defending a perspective written by a disjointed group of men who were not aware of anything."
In modern times. People defend an entire code and understanding based on circumstantial ignorance.
To no fault of the original writers.
But to the fault of those that defend it's texts.
This puts everything that they are talking about in the realm of alchemy, and astrology.
Even for the fact that if they got something right, it was entirely by accident.

lo: no, i totally hear/understand what yr saying.
i cannot help myself from getting all jokey about it. ITS WHAT I DO/

skyrlundy: Even the people who want to tell me about the good news know more than the guy who wrote the gospels.
That keeps me up at night.

lo: i think that i definitely have a strange....leniency? soft spot?
for religion

skyrlundy: I understand it.

lo: i didnt always. i was staunchly super pissed about it for a long time
i think that systematically looking at cultures/religions thru the eyes of anthropologists, with kind of a sense of wonder and respect for the things that people made- including their own mythology
DEFINITELY had an impact on me
in that regard
and i also think that- embarrassingly- my own resolution of open issues with my pastor-father helped soften me up a bit about it, too

skyrlundy: True.

lo: i wish that i could say that i was above such appeals to emotion
but
im not
and i have to be honest about that

skyrlundy: Understandable.

lo: additionally, my moms side of the family is catholic

skyrlundy: I have been in that position.

lo: my grandma was SUPER catholic
my aunt maria has now sort of taken over my grandmas role after her death, and now SHE prays for us and gives us a benediction everytime we leave her house to return to our homes
and
i like it. not because i feel warded
but bc its a familiar ritual and its 100% motivated by love and it makes me feel good
i also like going to church sometimes. any church. i just like being there and watching modern day ritual in action.
whether its a buddhist temple or a mormon church or a catholic service or a christian science or synagogue or whatever
i just am curious
i just want to know
want to see what its like
its the opportunity to see it play out in real time right in front of me, instead of reading about it
...i am genuinely embarrassed at having told you thissssssss
hahaha

skyrlundy: You shouldn't be.
After my self deconversion (I wasn't deconverted by anyone), I was intensely defensive of religion.
I was also more knowledgeable than most of the other religious people that I knew. I was really into it.
I had years of wrestling with the feeling in my head that I was constantly being watched.
Unshackling myself from guilt.
Facing a world in which there was no spiritual safety net.
It was terrifying.
I couldn't let someone speak poorly of it because even though I was no longer in it, I still gave it creedence. In a transitional period, I disagreed with the actual content of the bible, and the beliefs of superiority, and the treatment of gays, women, and those not of the faith so much, so entirely much, that I rejected faith and accepted my going to hell, in protest because I knew it was wrong, but wasn't strong enough to know that it was all a nasty nightmare.
It was a very intense moment, like my intellect breaking out of the shell of repression.
In a lot of ways, this traumatic experience is on the shoulders of an incredible amount of religious people. When we speak of the "limits of knowledge" when you and I talk to people, it's not just their limit of knowledge.
You're on the brink of absolute fear. Existential crisis. Panic.

lo: so. flarbing. true.

skyrlundy: The defensiveness is entirely in a mock self-preservation as they, and at one time, myself, have absolutely no point of reference without the security of brainwashing.

lo: all of it. everything yr saying is resonating. pls continue.

skyrlundy: My friends who had either not grown up religious, or had more of a Disneyland experience with bible study- I resented them.
I resented them because the nonbelievers had been demonized my whole life.
I resented the happy go lucky "christians" because it was obvious that they did not know the words from which they claimed a derivation of belief.
That point in my life was so incredibly mentally and emotionally lonely, I went through that alone because I couldn't turn to the church I was running away from because I knew of it's lies.
I couldn't seek solace in nonbelievers, because I knew more than they did.
So.
This is where my perspective comes from, and now, so many years later I have no form of resentment, anger, or bad feelings towards the faithful.
But when faith and religion are spoken of as a benign choice- I know that to be very incorrect.
Even in America, where like I was saying the other night, we have the complete ease of thinking we believe something, and not knowing a single thing about it.
We have that luxury.
But deep inside my brain, I know that this level of faith that resides in a good amount of the religious in our country.
Could be triggered to do very bad things.
Like we see in the middle east.
Like we've seen in Africa.

lo: [totally. absolutely. [the other funny thing is that even people who say that they understand in and 'believe' evolution- dont really. we're sooooo glibly ignorant.]

skyrlundy: Like we've seen during the inquisition and witch trials.
This is my picture of religion. It's makes monsters of people, and worse.
I'm not going to say that it's something I fear, but it is something that I understand.

lo: i think that religion gives something for that instinct to cloak itself in- but the impetus to NUKE IT FROM THE SKY when things are different or other than ourselves is sort of innate

skyrlundy: It is, but nothing is worse than a tribalism in modern days that is reinforced by divine providence.
A belief, that no matter how challenged as a whole, will continue to be believed and fought for.

lo: ok yes. that is hell of true.
tweet that.
'nothing is worse than a tribalism in modern days that is reinforced by divine providence.'
\that
BC I WANT TO FAV AND RT
also i want to snuggle

skyrlundy: [me too]
So if we were standing next to each other, overlooking the world, with what I've just said in mind...
The takeaway is that it is entirely dangerous to have beliefs which cannot be changed by rational thought.
Faith is incredibly dangerous to ourselves and our species.

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